This culture of isolation of married people or people in a relationship is very very toxic. It’s how your friends suffer in silence.
Work on your insecurity o.
You cannot underrate the positive impact of healthy friendships on romantic relationships of the friends. If your friend can’t check on your partner, wow. But draw that line. A good friend will respect it.
Stop isolating your partner.Your partner should choose you if any inappropriate friend is “seducing” them.
Your partner should choose you. Whether or not you monitor them like NASA.
Stop isolating your partner from other healthy relationships in their lives. People need platonic love and intimacy beside their significant others. They just need to talk, cry laugh and breathe outside their “us”.
Where is this possess whom you love shit from?Where is this possess whom you love shit from?
Experience and let flourish. Stop trying to own people because you swapped love emotions.
Stop possessing or isolating your beloved.
Stop limiting someone you claim you love from enjoying their life. Yes, they should have a portion of life outside you. Jeez. I can’t even stand toxic monogamy. Unlearn the shit relationship with love your parents modelled to you. I’ve found myself explaining platonic love and intimacy to a few people recently. It exists, and it’s really amazing. That’s probably why you are insecure. Don’t be.
Platonic love and intimacy is not a fancy phrase for sleeping with your friend please.
I see people doing gymnastics to enjoy their friendship with me because their partners aren’t comfortable with it. When I spend 70% of our time listening to them talk about their partner. Loving multiple people doesn’t mean “a love’ is invalidated.
Learn how to love a person without putting your body organ on/in theirs. You can love someone and not be in love with them. You dont have to always be in a relationship or have sex with them just because you need to talk with someone.
Teach yourself how to delineate romantic sexual love from platonic love. You might just need to find yourself and have healthy friendships not that sexual relationship.Jealousy is a valid emotion. Feel jealous, Express it.
I say every emotion is valid and necessary, both good and bad. It’s about how you show it. But I’ve learnt it’s also about how you let them affect your own life like Amaka said yesterday.
I remember the first time I felt jealous in a long time. Wow. Jealousy is hurt wearing an agbada of anger rolling it up with entitlement.