Book Quotes

BOOKS AS LEGACIES

“Legacy refers to any personal, movable gift in a will.”

I’m revising Wills today. Getting to types of legacies got me thinking. As bibliophiles we spend our time reading and acquiring books.

Books are gateway to adventure. Who gets our legacy of books when we die? Think About it.

📗Will you give certain books as specific legacies to some people.

📚Will your books be general legacies donated to charities that cater to educational needs.

📕Or will you have an auction of limited/signed/first print editions to the public?

📚Or will you prefer to be cremated with your favourite pages or whole books?

📒Or will you have your library made a segment at your local library which will be paid from your Will to house that segment?

Comment below if you will do any or all of these or something else. I’d love to know.

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SHE CALLED ME WOMAN

Book Quotes from SHE CALLED ME WOMAN which taught me Life Lessons.

This book is trail blazing and necessary. Edited by Azeenarh Mohammed, Rafeeat Aliyu, Chitra Nagarajan, She Called Me Woman is an intimate collection of 25 first-hand accounts of queer female Nigerian experiences.

I’ve learnt a lot about freedom, resistance, importance of self acceptance, supportive family and community, financial independence, intimacy, sex and love, emotional abuse by partners, hope, abuse against women, homophobia and safety.

Glimpse my emotional reading journey here. I lent it to my anticipating Bestie, Biggie in Lagos, to read before I travelled to Abuja for my NLS Externship.

Below are quotes from many narratives I enjoyed reading. Under each piece are more than one quote.

She Called Me ‘Woman’

‘Patience is the most important lesson I have learned in life. You will get what you want. Never lose focus. No matter what, never lose focus, ever.’


I Want To Be Myself Around People I Care About

‘For young people, be yourself. If you know you are queer, be yourself, do it. Do not let anyone restrict you.’

‘I think I can pray to God on my bed in my house without having to listen to someone interpret the Bible for me. I can read my Bible and understand it.’


Focusing On Joy

‘For me, a relationship should be free in terms of gender roles. I have not found this with the men and queer women I’ve been with. People have not worked through their own perceptions or a gender-free relationship isn’t what they want. And maybe I haven’t worked through my own..Everyone has their own stuff to come to terms with. Everyone wants to be affirmed in different ways and sometimes in very gendered ways.’

‘In all that you do, do not lose the practice of experiencing joy and creating it.’

My Sexuality Is Just The Icing On the Cake

‘She asks, ‘You are the dude, right?’ I reply, ‘No, there is no dude. I’m the girl and she’s the girl’.

‘There is a lot of preaching against homosexuality in the churches..It makes me feel like they are preaching hate. They are speaking on God’s behalf, but you cannot tell me this is what God is saying when you’re not God.’

‘The moment you do somethings with your life, nobody cares about your sexuality. I tell people that my sexuality is just the icing on the cake. First of all. I’m human..my sexuality doesn’t define who I am.’

‘There are so many attacks on homosexual societies because a lot of us are jobless and don’t have stuff going on with our lives.’


Everybody in J Town is Now a Lola

‘But I’ve got to the point where you can’t make me feel convicted by the colour of your heart.’


There is No One Way to be a Woman

‘I like relationships because they are an opportunity to know who you are and what you can tolerate from others.’

‘I dont have time for people I dont agree with.’


I am a Proud Lesbian

‘Everybody has his or her own way of living. That is what they dont understand.’

‘Don’t try to be something people want you to be or do things to impress somebody by being fake.’

Remember, Love is love is love. Let’s be accepting of queer people in Nigeria Nigerians! Let’s not limit women or their choices. Let’s not use religion as a reason for inhumane treatment or injustice. I recommend this book published by Cassava Republic with 4 fireworks. You can buy it in Nigeria from The Book Dealer, Alaroro Books and RovingHeights.

How to Win Friends and  Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

READING AND BOOKIE LIFE UPDATE

“An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.”

“Don’t criticize, condemn or complain”. Instead of condemning people trying to understand them gives their reasons for doing things. This more profitable as it breeds sympathy, kindness and tolerance.

I’ve read four chapters between Parts 1 &2. The life principles in this groundbreaking guidebook is making me question, learn and act. Different stories of people who practically lived using these principles are narrated.

A recommended text for my Professional ADR Skills and Accreditation and Certification Course Modules 1& 2 hosted by Insitute of Chartered Mediators and Conciliators (ICMC Nigeria). My week has been fast paced and productive.

I learnt how to tender a proper apology during the Mediation training yesterday. Which made me realise how some apologies I’ve given are inadequate.

1. ‘I Am Sorry’, acknowledge your action with sincerity.

2. Be specific about what you’re sorry for.

3. State what you intend to do to prevent a reoccurrence.

I’m writing my accreditation exams this weekend. Mock Trial is here and its preparations have swallowed my evenings. I volunteered to be a Judge. This should help me practise my communication skills and knowledge of Criminal Law.

Lessons from my 2018 Reads

Reading fiction can teach many life lessons apart from sharing a wonderful story.

Lessons I learnt from my 2018 reads are;
🎁Not to be greedy (A Thousand Beginnings and Endings),

🎁 If you want a job or gig be intentional. Get skills, review your CV,follow up, ask questions, negotiate for favourable terms. If you meet the love of your life at the job, don’t jeopardise your career for D or vajyajay, okay(The Summer of Jordi Perez by Amy Spalding),

🎁 Soar above shackling reality (Painted Blue with Saltwater by Logan February),

🎁 Fight for your existence, Do NOT Be ERASED!(Children of Blood and Bone by Tomi Adeyemi),

🎁 Be open to having meaningful connections with strangers (Everything Leads to You by Nina Lacour),

🎁 Communicate your misgivings with friends or loved ones but be patient.

🎁 Be bold to write untold stories. (#16daysofactivism Poems by Ella Chikezie)

Compliments of Season. Merry Christmas Eve Gem!