Book Quotes

How to Win Friends and  Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

READING AND BOOKIE LIFE UPDATE

“An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.”

“Don’t criticize, condemn or complain”. Instead of condemning people trying to understand them gives their reasons for doing things. This more profitable as it breeds sympathy, kindness and tolerance.

I’ve read four chapters between Parts 1 &2. The life principles in this groundbreaking guidebook is making me question, learn and act. Different stories of people who practically lived using these principles are narrated.

A recommended text for my Professional ADR Skills and Accreditation and Certification Course Modules 1& 2 hosted by Insitute of Chartered Mediators and Conciliators (ICMC Nigeria). My week has been fast paced and productive.

I learnt how to tender a proper apology during the Mediation training yesterday. Which made me realise how some apologies I’ve given are inadequate.

1. ‘I Am Sorry’, acknowledge your action with sincerity.

2. Be specific about what you’re sorry for.

3. State what you intend to do to prevent a reoccurrence.

I’m writing my accreditation exams this weekend. Mock Trial is here and its preparations have swallowed my evenings. I volunteered to be a Judge. This should help me practise my communication skills and knowledge of Criminal Law.

Lessons from my 2018 Reads

Reading fiction can teach many life lessons apart from sharing a wonderful story.

Lessons I learnt from my 2018 reads are;
🎁Not to be greedy (A Thousand Beginnings and Endings),

🎁 If you want a job or gig be intentional. Get skills, review your CV,follow up, ask questions, negotiate for favourable terms. If you meet the love of your life at the job, don’t jeopardise your career for D or vajyajay, okay(The Summer of Jordi Perez by Amy Spalding),

🎁 Soar above shackling reality (Painted Blue with Saltwater by Logan February),

🎁 Fight for your existence, Do NOT Be ERASED!(Children of Blood and Bone by Tomi Adeyemi),

🎁 Be open to having meaningful connections with strangers (Everything Leads to You by Nina Lacour),

🎁 Communicate your misgivings with friends or loved ones but be patient.

🎁 Be bold to write untold stories. (#16daysofactivism Poems by Ella Chikezie)

Compliments of Season. Merry Christmas Eve Gem!

The Summer of Jordi Perez

THE SUMMER OF JORDI PEREZ (AND THE BEST BURGER IN LOS ANGELES) by AMY SPALDING.

Something I guess what I hadn’t forseen about falling in love with someone is how much your heart can ache to take away their pain.’

‘When you’re making your way through the world in a look you feel confident about, everything feels easier’.

Abby and her summer romance tale slayed my life in August. Which is why I’m sharing my thoughts about this highly recommended novel. I read each chapter like one relishing tiny bits of their favourite chocolate bar. Every night after a productive day I’d curl up under my cotton covers and read two to three reward chapters. Initially I was sceptical about this book. It was named after another female character the heroine was competing with but crushing on.  But I now agree with Julie Murphy, this novel is truly a dreamy, queer, fat girl rom-com. I know how many times I have read fat or plus-size heroine chicklit or romance novels which were disappointing. But not with this novel. It’s a witty, young adult, queer romance novel. Genres I love! I read this at a time when I’d just uplifted my body confidence which took a dip. Being a thick babe, I could relate with Abby’s sentiments on full body pictures and her worries about online fat shaming. Amidst her fashion blogging, Abby landed her dream internship. Abbs, career babe, colorful fashionista!

It was comedic. Just when Abby’s worries and observations would scurry around pages. Her goofy friends and plot ironies would lighten the mood. This was my favourite funny conversation;

‘Are you crying?’ Jax asked with a horrified edge to his voice. ‘No!’ I am lying. Lying and crying. He sort of scatters extra napkins near my face, which–despite my tears–makes me burst into laughter. ‘Why are boys so scared of girl feelings? I ask. ‘Abbs, I’m a feminist’, he says. ‘I’m equally scared of all feelings.

I know! Jax and Abby spent the summer eating burgers and reviewing them as part of data collection for his father’s soon to be launched rating app, Best Blank. I mused about having a friend who would pick me up in a fancy car to eat free burgers for research. Then I remembered every other Friday evening my sis and I drive around Ojo to get great shawarma to eat. I am living the life!

Mailah who is Abby’s best friend disappointingly spends most of summer with her boyfriend Trevor. Jordi Perez, the other intern and photographer is an adorable and talent young woman.  All the swimming parties, restaurant hunting, parents avoiding, kissing, photography and fashion aside. I love this fat girl narrative. The writing is simple, clear, witty, reflective, engaging and flows beautifully. Set in Los Angeles, I loved how different characters like Abby’s mother and her health eating business were some form of antagonist contradiction for Abby. Look Jordi, Jax, Abby and Mailah thought me a bunch of lessons about forgiveness and rebuilding trust with effective communication, trying out new things and finding work balance in a romantic relationships or friendship.

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‘And to all the girls who worry they take up too much space: you don’t’.. these are the words Amy Spalding ends her acknowledgement with. Amy lives in Los Angeles and has a B.A in Advertising and Marketing Communications. This is her sixth book. Check out her other novels at her site.  Sky Pony Press, New York published this novel in 2018.