‘Exposure is never overrated. Practice, practice, practice! It isn’t shameful.’- Adaeze Feyisayo.
Before Dinner, I made sure I noted the day my dining would occur, Wednesday. On Monday I spent 4 hours at Jimeta market searching, buying and amending a suit jacket. I’d make a check-list of requirements and rules. After Property Law Practice lecture yesterday and a bit of writing. I restyled my hair from my Minnie buns and bangs to twin nape buns in the picture above.
Minnie Buns and Bangs
I also practised my cutlery use before dinner on Tuesday. I shared get-ready-with-me videos on my WhatsApp. I had a shower, polished my shoes and dressed up. My friend, roommates and I took pictures then left the hostels. After signing into the attendance register we were given seat placements. After the Body of Benchers filed in and sat, prayers said and the gravel was hit, dinner began and went on for 1hr.
Loookk at meee!!!
DINNER WITH BODY OF BENCHERS
‘The words that follow ‘I AM’ are powerful. Today begin using uplifting, positive, kind phrases to define yourself and attract goodness to yourself.’– Former Chief Judge of Adamawa State.
Attendance of 3 dinners are prerequisites to sit for bar finals. So don’t forget to correctly sign the attendance register. It was more formal than my university law dinner.
There were two speeches given, the toast (to the Federal Republic of Nigeria) speech and a post-dinner speech by the Chairman of the occasion(usually a Life Bencher). You can eat during the latter speech but you stand for the former holding up a wine glass. I really loved the Former CJ’s heartwarming speech on benefits of positive affirmations in life.
You are to wear a black suit with a white shirt/camisole, natural hair neatly packed in a bun/puff, black flat shoes/heels, student I.D card. No handbags and phones are allowed. But people snuck in their phones.
Proper British dinner etiquette is meant to be observed throughout the three-course meal. So practice cutlery use beforehand. Yo, the hall sounded like a battlefield in Game of Thrones! I didn’t finish my main course, jollof rice, coleslaw and chicken. It wasn’t tasty, fresh or soft. I really enjoyed the peppersoup and pineapple.
You will feel anxious but don’t forget to breathe in and out, name 3 parts of your body or object you see or count from 50-1 backwards. I sat directly in front of my campus deputy director general and the gravel. A babe at my table suffered an anxiety attack and she was able to breathe in-out consciously for 5mins then eat her meal. I was happy she could eat and relax.
I look forward to the other two dinners!