Nigerian Books

The Drunken Writer reviews STAB LOVE WITH FLOWER STALKS

The Stab Love with Flower Stalks Blog Tour has kicked off with this heart warming review by The Drunken Writer.

Ezinne Ogwumah (Author, Self Apology), Poet and Blogger at The Drunken Writer has me dancing about my bedroom work desk with my heart crying.

Her review captures her experience of Stab Love with Flower Stalks. I’m humbled with how she relates and interprets its emotional depth on love, queerness and erotic sensuality.

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SHE CALLED ME WOMAN

Book Quotes from SHE CALLED ME WOMAN which taught me Life Lessons.

This book is trail blazing and necessary. Edited by Azeenarh Mohammed, Rafeeat Aliyu, Chitra Nagarajan, She Called Me Woman is an intimate collection of 25 first-hand accounts of queer female Nigerian experiences.

I’ve learnt a lot about freedom, resistance, importance of self acceptance, supportive family and community, financial independence, intimacy, sex and love, emotional abuse by partners, hope, abuse against women, homophobia and safety.

Glimpse my emotional reading journey here. I lent it to my anticipating Bestie, Biggie in Lagos, to read before I travelled to Abuja for my NLS Externship.

Below are quotes from many narratives I enjoyed reading. Under each piece are more than one quote.

She Called Me ‘Woman’

‘Patience is the most important lesson I have learned in life. You will get what you want. Never lose focus. No matter what, never lose focus, ever.’


I Want To Be Myself Around People I Care About

‘For young people, be yourself. If you know you are queer, be yourself, do it. Do not let anyone restrict you.’

‘I think I can pray to God on my bed in my house without having to listen to someone interpret the Bible for me. I can read my Bible and understand it.’


Focusing On Joy

‘For me, a relationship should be free in terms of gender roles. I have not found this with the men and queer women I’ve been with. People have not worked through their own perceptions or a gender-free relationship isn’t what they want. And maybe I haven’t worked through my own..Everyone has their own stuff to come to terms with. Everyone wants to be affirmed in different ways and sometimes in very gendered ways.’

‘In all that you do, do not lose the practice of experiencing joy and creating it.’

My Sexuality Is Just The Icing On the Cake

‘She asks, ‘You are the dude, right?’ I reply, ‘No, there is no dude. I’m the girl and she’s the girl’.

‘There is a lot of preaching against homosexuality in the churches..It makes me feel like they are preaching hate. They are speaking on God’s behalf, but you cannot tell me this is what God is saying when you’re not God.’

‘The moment you do somethings with your life, nobody cares about your sexuality. I tell people that my sexuality is just the icing on the cake. First of all. I’m human..my sexuality doesn’t define who I am.’

‘There are so many attacks on homosexual societies because a lot of us are jobless and don’t have stuff going on with our lives.’


Everybody in J Town is Now a Lola

‘But I’ve got to the point where you can’t make me feel convicted by the colour of your heart.’


There is No One Way to be a Woman

‘I like relationships because they are an opportunity to know who you are and what you can tolerate from others.’

‘I dont have time for people I dont agree with.’


I am a Proud Lesbian

‘Everybody has his or her own way of living. That is what they dont understand.’

‘Don’t try to be something people want you to be or do things to impress somebody by being fake.’

Remember, Love is love is love. Let’s be accepting of queer people in Nigeria Nigerians! Let’s not limit women or their choices. Let’s not use religion as a reason for inhumane treatment or injustice. I recommend this book published by Cassava Republic with 4 fireworks. You can buy it in Nigeria from The Book Dealer, Alaroro Books and RovingHeights.

The Origin of Butterflies

The Origin of Butterflies by Romeo Oriogun

‘The first rule of survival is to run’

‘Give a man words &he will build a castle/ full of darkness & light.’

‘You want to fill your bones with wine/till a boy swims into your hands.’

I’ve read this chapbook twice. Then my favorite poems some more. It is brutally truthful, graphic and lyrical work.

‘I want to love a boy/who tastes of fear & still smiles’

My Favourite Poems

Pink Club

The Origin of Butterflies

Departure

To The Boy Who Flew Away

Denial

Coming Out

‘I know how a body enters itself/ to hide desire behind sadness’.

Feeling exiled at home. Singing songs of truths in the dark. Violence against Nigerian gay men. Flight of Freedom. Resilience. Fear. Self acceptance. Longing. Search for love and home. Survival. Are themes of this poetry chapbook and they will make you feel, see, smell, fear, anger, soar and hope.

‘You can never/break songs/of sunrise/into dark spirits’

Repetition of themes made me uneasy after some poems. But I feel that is the desired effect. A flight through what queer males in Nigeria feel and experience. These poems call out homophobic attacks and Nigeria. Then disagree with horrific mob burning, family beatings, discrimination, criminalization, fear and more.

‘You know sanctuary is where your hips/grow feathers & fly’

I feel The Origin of Butterflies charts the map of how one takes flight to live and love in freedom not found in ones homeland while guiding one on how to beautifully survive.

I highly recommend this bold chapbook with 4 stars. You can purchase it from Ouida House.

More info..

Romeo Oriogun is the author of numerous poems published in Brittle Paper, EXPOUND, Afridiaspora among others. Departure, Kumbaya and Saddest Night Alive in this chapbook were first published in Brittle Paper. I wrote a review of Departure in 2018 here. He’s also the author of Burnt Men, an electronic chapbook published by Praxis Magazine Online and the 2018 winner of Brunel International African Poetry Prize.

The Origin of Butterflies is published by Akashic Books, Brooklyn New York, USA in 2018.

Bookish Swag

Hey Gem, meet the books and candy box I got from Bookish Species’ Blind Date With A Book. Get a new wallpaper at the end!

My mystery book was Die of Shame by Mark Billingham (its in the middle).

Book Synopsis

Six Secrets. Six motives Who did it?

Every Monday evening, six people gather in a smart north London house to talk about addiction. There they share their deepest secrets:stories of lies, regret and, above all, shame.

Then one of them is killed-and it’s clear someone in the circle was responsible. Detective Inspector Nicola Tanner quickly finds her investigation hampered by the group’s strict confidentiality. But what could be shameful enough to cost someone their life? And how do you find the truth when denial and deception are second nature to all suspects?

The other two books I got were:

  • In the Name of Our Father by Olukorede S. Yishau

Two men. One dictator. A country in turmoil. Into this mix is thrown a new novel that threatens to expose the rotten underbelly of “a man of God” who has not only bewitched his flock but has sunk his fangs into the head of state.

In his debut novel, In The Name of Our Father, award winning journalist Olukorede Yishau weaves a mesmerising tale of duty, ambition, greed and hunger for power. It is the story of two men intent on preserving their lives but it is on a larger scale the story of a country fighting to throw off the shackles of a power mad dictator.

  • Power Play by Anne McCaffrey and Elizabeth Ann Scarborough

Petaybee is growing up. Day by day, the feeling planet-like any child-is learning to recognize and understand the meaning of outside stimuli, to respond to those stimuli, to communicate on its own needs and desires..even to use human speech.

Yanaba Maddock has appointed herself defender of her adopted planet, and has even succeeded in proving its sentience to nonbelievers. But despite her efforts, few outsiders truly care for emotions and intelligence of what they perceive to be a giant hunk of rock. The Yanaba is kidnapped. The price of her freedom: control of the planet itself. But the only one who can speak for Petaybee is petaybee-and no one knows what a living planet can do once it finds its voice.

It’s been a while I’ve gotten mystery and sci-fi books. I look forward to reading these during my externship. As I find my book date mystery fascinating and co-authored books richer.

On another hand, I want to go back to this stairway, sit down, chew frozen, diced pineapples and read with Amaka’s peach rose in my peripheral vision. We had an awesome sleepover after the event into Easter Sunday

BOOKISH WALLPAPER!

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Have you read any of these books or other books by these authors? Comment below and also tell me if you enjoyed reading them. Dont forget to download your free, new bookish wallpaper above.